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28 Feb

Could Your ‘Ideals’ Be Holding You Back?

Naks0 CommentsLife, Pockets of Wisdom

“It's my choice to be beautiful. It's my choice to be ugly. And it's my choice to decide what those words actually mean.” ― Virginia Petrucci A lot of the ideals we believe in were taught to us at an early age. And we carry them with us all the way into our adult lives. But, in some cases, these ideals could be keeping us in chains. An ideal is a level of perfection that exists only in imagination. It’s the idea that something is perfect or conforming to an ultimate standard of perfection or excellence. The standards that most…

25 Oct

Why we are so afraid to feel ‘Joy’…

Naks0 CommentsLife, Mental wellness

“Find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing. For to miss the joy is to miss all.” ― Robert Louis Stevenson What is Joy? A 92-year-old man, short, very well-presented, who took great care of his appearance, was moving into an old people’s home one day. His wife of 70 years had recently died, and he was obliged to leave his home. After waiting several hours in the retirement home lobby, he gently smiled as Leah, a nurse, told him his room was ready. As he slowly walked to the elevator, using his cane, Leah…

15 Oct

What happened to Wonder…

Naks0 CommentsLife, Pockets of Wisdom

“You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry. Don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.” As a child, I was always in awe of the rain. Every time it rained I would curl up in a tiny ball and simply stare outside the window as those million tiny droplets of water chased each other down to feed the plants and the earth. I would close my eyes and listen to the rain in hopes that maybe I could hear a melody or a lullaby? The rain always had a story. After every rainfall, I…

10 Oct

What If You Slowed Down…

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A friend sent me an audio where the story below was being narrated. I decided to share it here. I am a huge believer in the revealing power of practicing patience with ourselves and the people around us. I am also living proof of how random acts of kindness have the power to change or completely transform someone’s life. I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car…

08 Oct

365 Feasts!(What If We Were Grateful Every Single Day Of The Year?)

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"Never let the phrase thank you stand naked and alone..." This post was written in 2020, when my dear grandmother was still alive. May her soul Rest In Peace. . The other day, my cousin randomly said "We should celebrate Thanksgiving this year Jaja. We should have a feast!" My Jaja (grandmother) looks at him, a confused expression on her face, and asks , "Thanksgiving. What's that?" So I try explaining to her that it's a tradition, a day where people celebrate, and are mindfully grateful for the good things in their lives and eat! Really eat!" "So it's Christmas?"…

01 Oct

When Life Punches You in the Face Too Many Times…

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I’ve never been physically punched in the face but let me tell you something; life has a weird way of delivering the meanest left hooks! (Did I say that right?) You never know when they’re coming (unless you made some pretty stupid decisions) or what direction they’re coming from. You totally clueless about how much it’ll hurt and when the hurt will go away. To make it worse, there’s no instruction manual out there for us to use; we certainly aren’t born with one attached to our foreheads titled “just in case life punches you too many times kid.” But…

14 Aug

Why We Need To Unlearn To Learn…

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As futurist Alvin Toffler once wrote, “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” When we join a new school, a new church, a new company; we learn to do things the way others do. When we move to new place, we pay attention to its local people and unconsciously pick up their ways of saying, doing and being. We are automatically conditioned by the environment we live in and sometimes this is necessary for survival, sometimes even desirable. But just as we cannot plant…

03 Jul

The War Within Part III: Embracing My Own Worth…

Naks0 CommentsLife, Mental wellness

I have always thought that there was a problem with society’s obsession and intense focus on comparisons; how we compare against others, rather than paying attention to our intrinsic value. Our culture tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves, but we can’t all be above average all the time. I couldn't be above average all the time. And that was okay. Because ordinary does not equal meaningless. For me, as I know for many of you, establishing and honoring my own self-worth was a difficult task. I thought that taking the steps…

29 Jun

The War Within PartII: Learning to accept God’s Love and Mercy.

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I knew! I knew! I knew I was smart. I knew I was gifted and really good at some stuff. The problem was never about whether I acknowledged the compliments I heard or not. I did acknowledge them. Of course not every day, but majority of the time my self-esteem was good. I acknowledged what I heard and what I discovered about myself as fact. But never as the truth. I never accepted any of it…. I did not believe I was worthy enough to do so. And that was the problem… ************ “We ask ourselves, who am I to…

24 Jun

The War Within….

Naks0 CommentsLife, Mental wellness

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” _Brené Brown Years ago, when you were younger, you were most probably fearless. You didn’t mind what you wore, how you spoke, or how the world perceived you. You opened your eyes and your heart to new experiences and people and trusted that everything was going to be okay. Somewhere along the way, you started hiding and learned that being vulnerable can hurt. You probably got teased and laughed at for one thing or the other, and you learned that not everyone…

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